How to Strengthen Your Lesbian Relationship
Whether your long-term relationship is strong, rocky or somewhere in between, the fact is many could stand to strengthen their relationship. A loving, resilient marriage is a source of personal happiness and family joy. But good relationships take effort and attention. Here are 3 ways you can strengthen – or even save – your relationship.
Three Key Ways to Connect
You maintain your home and vehicle to make sure they last, right? Apply that same care to your marriage. A bit of regular attention goes a long way.
It can take some time to improve your relationship if things haven’t been great for awhile. Be consistent. Stay open. Work on yourself while you work on your relationship.
If you find your attempts to connect regularly turn into arguments, or if either of you gets defensive, hostile, critical or shuts down, you need to figure out what’s going wrong. Sign up for a free coaching call to get more insights and to explore what to do next.
Three Key Ways to Connect
You maintain your home and vehicle to make sure they last, right? Apply that same care to your marriage. A bit of regular attention goes a long way.
- Talk, listen and share: Take 15 minutes a day to talk with one another. Be curious. Ask questions. Don't discuss your relationship. When your partner is talking, give your full attention. Turn off the TV. Put down your cell phone. Allow her to share all types of feelings. Avoid the temptation to give advice or solve a problem. Just listen and engage in a way that demonstrates you are listening. Share your thoughts and feelings with your partner. Talking is key to connecting.
- Try something new together: Research has shown that doing a new activity that you are both interested in can be a great for the relationship. Take a photography or dance class. Plan an outing to someplace you’ve never been or haven’t been to in awhile. Cook together. Volunteer at an animal shelter. Talk afterwards about what each of you liked and didn’t like so that your next activity can be even better.
- Demonstrate commitment. We humans have a need for security. If things feel off in the relationship, it could be stemming from a place of fear. You don’t need to provide constant verbal reassurance, because showing that you are thinking of your partner speaks louder than words. Send a “thinking of you” text during the day. If your partner has a presentation or otherwise has to do something important, stick a “Good luck!” post it note on their car keys or laptop. Bring home flowers. Remember and acknowledge milestones, anniversaries and birthdays.
It can take some time to improve your relationship if things haven’t been great for awhile. Be consistent. Stay open. Work on yourself while you work on your relationship.
If you find your attempts to connect regularly turn into arguments, or if either of you gets defensive, hostile, critical or shuts down, you need to figure out what’s going wrong. Sign up for a free coaching call to get more insights and to explore what to do next.
