Coming out in midlife

" I knew I was different, but just wasn’t sure why or how…. And certainly wasn’t anyone I could talk to about it…."

"I had a religious upbringing. I was afraid of the spiritual repercussions. At that time I was brought up believing what I was I told..."

"All of a sudden, it hit me! I had been married to a man for 30 years and couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. Why I didn’t feel that way for him..." 

"I knew most of my life but stuffed it away. Married to a man, twice. Spent ten years on my own. My aha moment came at age 61...."

"I've always known yet decided to suppress my feelings. I married a good man. I've not come out as of yet. I feel I've left it too late now to leave and find my hearts desire..."

If you found this post, you very well may be a woman who's on the brink of coming out, either to yourself or others. It can be very scary.

Coming out is a multistep process. First you recognize and acknowledge to yourself that you are attracted to women. Then there is the decision about whether to tell others and/or act on it. Or maybe you've already acted on it and are now at a place of "Now what?" Maybe lots of guilt.

If you have built a life that looks to the rest of the world like that of a straight woman and you imagine coming out, you may be terrified that you will lose everything. 

Any step of coming out can feel scary or overwhelming. Any step can last a mere minute or many decades.

Remember this: Every decision that has brought you to where you are today seemed like the right or most logical decision in that moment.

Know this: You can do hard things. You can figure out what to do. You can feel better.

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